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Lost for words?

Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2017 6:13 pm
by curb9
Misery loves company.

*sits quietly in her comfy chair in the corner. She thinks of “him”, the good times, the bad times. *

Is his spirit now relaxed and pain free?

My pain will fade and I’ll move on. Will that hurt his spirit to see me move on?

My misery welcomes company. Feel free to walk into the room, find your own quiet corner. Let yourself feel.

I may roam around here and there. I feel comfort here.

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2017 6:25 pm
by curb9
*listens to all the songs they shared with each other. Last week she cried listening. This week, she feels more at peace. More acceptance. The songs bring her a smile to close her eyes, feel the music, feel the more powerful or touching moments.

The songs bring the memories but not as much pain in her chest when she thinks that their dreams together are over. Their dreams are over but she will create new ones. She fades into the memories and allows a few tears to escape.

Allow music to soothe

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2017 10:25 pm
by Samanthaj
curb9 wrote:
Fri Nov 10, 2017 6:13 pm
Misery loves company.

*sits quietly in her comfy chair in the corner. She thinks of “him”, the good times, the bad times. *

Is his spirit now relaxed and pain free?

My pain will fade and I’ll move on. Will that hurt his spirit to see me move on?

My misery welcomes company. Feel free to walk into the room, find your own quiet corner. Let yourself feel.

I may roam around here and there. I feel comfort here.


Hugs Curb :thinktank: I'm sorry for your loss of your friend

I know there is not much I can say that will ease your pain but I understand many of the questions you are asking yourself
I have asked myself a thousand times over and I know many others have. What about that, moving on part?

It's a tricky one I understand. Painful to imagine and the unknown of how they would feel about it if they were still physically here with us. For me personally it took a lot of time to give myself permission to do so many things
To even smile again, some days. To take down photographs, there are so many challenges we face and many of them are so painful to think through. What does moving on mean to you? ......

a myth and assumption from others could be that it means we have dealt, that the pain has lessened. It can appear that way for observers, but don't ever let others views get in the way of your healing. To move on is simply giving yourself permission to do what you know your friend/relative would have wanted for you. You knew your friend/relative better than anyone else.. You most likely will have a feeling/knowing within that they would want nothing but the best for you, :thinktank: would you agree?

I Don't think he would be angry at all. Not sad either to see you being happy/happier


Is his spirit relaxed and pain free?... Yes it definitely is .. that's something I can promise you :thinktank:

No worries about talking/posting here. This board has always been here for a reason and it's good to let it out.. vent/talk away. I still stand by this.. losing loved ones (related or not) is the hardest thing we'll face in this lifetime. You have permission to feel and grieve exactly how you are, without apologizing to anyone. Hugs


Sam J

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2017 10:28 pm
by Samanthaj
curb9 wrote:
Fri Nov 10, 2017 6:25 pm
*listens to all the songs they shared with each other. Last week she cried listening. This week, she feels more at peace. More acceptance. The songs bring her a smile to close her eyes, feel the music, feel the more powerful or touching moments.

The songs bring the memories but not as much pain in her chest when she thinks that their dreams together are over. Their dreams are over but she will create new ones. She fades into the memories and allows a few tears to escape.

Allow music to soothe


Image

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2017 11:43 am
by curb9
Thank you SamJ

*finds a quiet bench in a park. Listens to the birds and sounds of nature. The white tulip from SamJ forms a garden to the side.

several benches in the park have others sitting quietly and reflecting.

Her tears are dry, she feels at peace today

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2017 11:57 pm
by Samanthaj
curb9 wrote:
Sat Nov 11, 2017 11:43 am
Thank you SamJ

*finds a quiet bench in a park. Listens to the birds and sounds of nature. The white tulip from SamJ forms a garden to the side.

several benches in the park have others sitting quietly and reflecting.

Her tears are dry, she feels at peace today

Sitting with you Curb

Keep talking all you need, here to listen. You're not alone

:thinktank:

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2017 1:54 am
by ladybug00000000000
You have a good heart curb

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2017 12:55 pm
by curb9
*feels strength and thinks of alternate futures. Feels the support the ABT community.

Sits in the bench and daydreams with a smile.

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Mon Nov 13, 2017 9:00 pm
by curb9
Goes to her comfy chair in the corner. Curls up her legs, wraps a cozy blanket over her body.

Closes her eyes and thinks of a reading she just had with samanthaj (thank you!)

Imagines holding her recently deceased loved one. Love, forgiveness and peace. Sadness will continue but without being compounded by guilt, doubt and anger.

Re: Lost for words?

Posted: Sat Nov 18, 2017 1:19 pm
by curb9
*watches the snow fall outside the window.

A quiet, peaceful moment

For those of you grieving, you are welcome to sit and find a place that feels like your own